Recognize that every person you interact with does what they do for reasons you don’t yet know.

From a Controller

“Stabilizers always seem to know ‘what’s going on’ with people and always do what they say they will do. However, they are not good under pressure. They seem to give in rather than fight for what they believe in.”

From a Stabilizer

“Stabilizers are gentle people who really care about others. They almost always put others before themselves. However, Stabilizers avoid conflict so much that they normally do not tell others when they have been hurt or violated.”

From an Analyzer

“Stabilizers are friendly and easy to work with, they make people feel comfortable. Sometimes they spend too much time developing relationships. They try to ‘sit on both sides of the fence’ in decision-making.”

From a Persuader

“Stabilizers are good listeners and care about people. They do nice things just to make people feel good about themselves. I think they worry too much about hurting other people’s feelings and try to protect people from the consequences of their actions.”

Intent vs. Impact Words

Individuals with any Style preference can have either a negative or positive impact, depending on their levels of levels of trust and credibility with the other person, their relational history, and the context of the interaction. It is important to remember that you can always modify your behavior to have a more positive impact in any interaction.

High Trust and Credibility

Attentive
Nice
Generous
Thoughtful
Supportive
Sincere
Team Player
Diplomatic
Considerate
Neighborly

Low Trust and Credibility

Submissive
Gullible
Indecisive
Nosy
Co-Dependent
Scared
Meek
Insecure
Cowardly
Needy